My bf doesn't agree about contraceptive method.. HELP!?
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You got some terrific answers here, shnitle, mainly from fellow females who know what they're talking about.
From a man's prospective I have one thing to add... I think you should find a new bf. This guy is only concerned about himself... ie: he's a selfish jerk. This will not be the only thing he will be demanding... to be more accurate, this is just the first thing he'll be selfish about. Get him out of your life and look for a decent man.
LEAVE HIM IF HE DOENST CHANGE HIS MIND...YOU GUYS NEED TO COME TO A COMPROMISE, IF HE CANT RESPECT HOW YOU FEEL, THEN EITHER DONT HAVE SEX OR BREAK UP WITH HIM...ITS THAT SIMPLE
He should be wearing a rubber no matter what. if the pill makes you feel bad, then go see your doctor and find another method. For now, your BF is being selfish. Condoms do take away sensation, but not a whole lot. I would rather wear one and get laid then not wear one and not get laid or get someone pregnant. Cut him off for a while and see what he does...he will be wearing a condom!
If the condom hurts him, tell him to get a different brand/bigger size/different style. And he's complaining about HIS pain but wants to make you take something that makes you sick? I'd tell him no condoms, no sex. I'm sure his pain will subside real quick.
Not have sex with your boyfriend of course! Tell him bye bye.
He doesn't agree with the contraceptive but he wants you to go on the pill? The pill is a contraceptive... That doesn't make sense...anyway,
here's an option, and it's cheaper than the pill and better for you.
It's called Depo-provera, a tiny injection in the arm or buttock, every 3months and you're good to go! and if he doesn't want to wear a condom...then perfect! It's 97-99% effective.
You also don't get your period...which is great, as the injection stops the ovaries from releasing the egss...hence no period pain! The reason why I got it is because I had endometreosis.
Just make sure you consult your doctor before you get it!
Tell your bf to wear a condom every time!
You can't trust a woman who promises to provide birth control, and if she gets pregnant, she has all the rights and the man has all the responsibilities for 18 years! A lot of women try to trap their boyfriends into marriage by getting pregnant deliberately.
There are lots of other methods out there. Also, there are many different brands and types of b.c. pills, a lower dose one may not make you as nauseous. There are barrier methods like cervical caps or a diaphragm you could use. A tip I've heard for making condom use better for men is if they put a drop of lubricant inside it increased the sensation. Another tip I've heard that encourages men to use them is if the woman says "Sorry, no sex." That usually changes their mind really quick! In the end its your body and you need to take care of it. If he can't agree on a method w/you, then maybe you should find a new boyfriend who will. Good luck!
There are many other methods of birth control out there for you to try. However, he should be willing to compromise and if he isn't then maybe you shouldn't be having sex with a guy who can't be understanding. And many of the other methods, such as the depo shot take over a month to be effective. So, if you decide to take a different method, he will get no sex for over a month unless he decides to use a condom. If he says that condoms hurt when he uses them, then he is probably sensitive to latex. The solution would be to get a different condom. As for loss of sensitivity, I'm not a guy, but every guy I have ever talked to says that it's not that big of a difference. So, there you go.
First off, condoms DO NOT hurt him. He's lieing. It is not possible for one to hurt him, unless he's EXTREMELY large, and needs ...what they call...a "magnum" condom, which is larger than normal. Do NOT let him brainwash you into believing that they actually hurt him. As far as him not feeling anything, he's lieing there too. Yes, it's true men can feel less while wearing them, but they can DEFINITELY still feel. You should try "polyurthane" condoms or some other...slightly thinner trojan condoms. (go into the condom isle, they have lots to choose from). Don't go on the pill unless YOU want to girl. It is YOUR body. There are MANY pills to choose from, however. Perhaps, if you want to try the pill again, you should try a different brand. Ask your doctor, or go to Planned Parenthood, there are definitely over 20 different types of pills out there, with different levels of hormones, and different side effects. Try them out, see if any of them work better for you. ( the pill IS very effective at preventing pregnancy, that is why is a good choice of contraceptive) If you still don't like the pill, there are shots of hormones you can get, which are very effective, and also implants (iuds) that you can get in your arm that slowly release hormones over a period of time. They also have an implant that can go in your uterus that releases a bit of hormones and that also prevents a pregnancy from occuring because nothing can implant it there. You best bet, and what I would do, is go to your doctor first, and talk about and try your different options. Whatever your do DON'T let your b/f talk you into having unprotected sex! You don't want an unintended pregnancy or and STD. You're way smarter than that! Think about yourself. Best Wishes.
ask, ,wearing a condom,or, with possibilities of raising a child,if I he still insist of you taking the pills or other kind of contraceptives then it is time for you to think about yourself and remember it is your body,your health and yourself is your responsibility,sometimes it is on how you explain to your partner,be gentle.
Sounds like he wants you to sacrifice your well-being for his pleasure. Which sounds like a big problem.
Do not let him pressure you into unprotected sex, first of all. Second, you need to sit him down and talk to him. It seems like he expects you to make all the sacrifices in your sex life- which is ridiculous. Condoms shouldn't hurt guys, so either he's making it up because he likes how unprotected sex feels (which could be the case), or he could be allergic to latex, or wearing the wrong size. Before you go on the pill, which is way more extreme and hard on your body than a condom is on his, try out different brands and materials to see if it helps. If he still insists and you're still uncomfortable, maybe it's time to go your seperate ways.
Good luck!
Well there him that maybe he using the wrong size condom and he can go and see which one fits him better.There are hundreds of different condoms out in the market these days.Good luck
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