A question about bipolar and avoidance during a depressive episode?
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A depressive episode is pretty much the same whether it's due to bipolar, cyclothymia, or some other flavor of mood disorder.
Social interaction during depression can seem pretty weird to people around the depressed person. My mother could be deeply subdued by her depression, then sparkling and cheery on the telephone with someone, then under a cloud again. I thought this was strange until I began to suffer from depression myself. It's possible to ramp up for some interactions even when I'm feeling suicidal, and I show how I really feel only to people I am close to.
There are probably many reasons why this could happen, and no one can speak for your boyfriend better than he can. You need to talk to him about how this situation seems to you so that he knows what your feelings are. He may not be able to change the fact that he has more energy for strangers than he does for someone who loves him, but together you may be able to come to an understanding about why this bothers you and what he can do to reassure you.
Loving someone with a mood disorder means doing more to make the relationship work than is probably true for most couples. Doing so long-distance is especially hard. The two of you need to communicate well, and that's hard to do when you can't actually be face-to-face.
You both have my best wishes.
you might have to hospitalize him for a couple of weeks
I have it too. There were times when I wouldn't talk to family or friends, and I'd stay completely withdrawn and do nothing but think by myself.
It's easier to talk to people you have no connection with in real life, because you can just leave them and no one will care.
But you don't want to mess up real life, so you stay withdrawn from family and friends often to avoid hurting them, or because you have no interest in them, even though you still love them and want to have an interest. It's all a chemical imbalance in the mind that you can't control.
It's very normal for this to happen and you should stay supportive to your boyfriend, he needs to know he's loved. :)
They ususally withdraw from everyone...friends and strangers.
Do you know FOR SURE that he is talking to these other girls or is it just something you suspect because he hasn't been talking to you?
i myself am bipolar he probably doesn't feel like talking to anyone or seeing anyone and the people over the net well i do the same thing...it might be that he likes talking to them cause then you can say what ever and it wont haunt you for ever. but keep trying to do something with him cause my therapist told me that when your depressed the worse thing you can be doing is being alone and ignoring others and just staying at home.
Bipolar disorder is he Dr. Jackal and Mr Hyde of disorders. Having a relationship with someone struggling with this disorder is difficult and heart breaking at best. It could be that your friend doesn't want to burden you with his deep dark thoughts during this difficult period and prefers to connect with strangers. Give him time and space to get himself out of this period. If he is on medication, he obviously takes care of his issues. Please be sure you understand about Bipolar Disorder before you get too attached to this man. It is incredibly difficult to live with someone who is so up and down. Do research on the net and read up on the symptoms to see if you could sustain a long term "close by" relationship.
Nobody has to be hospitalized, first of all until docto recomeds it. Usually in depressive state, we BP, want to talk to people we love or people who make us feel safe. Not to strangers. There is something else why he behaves like that!! Talk to his family, or try to talk to him about what is going on!!
I don't know you or your boyfriend, but I do know bipolar. My answer is very clear. Get a new boyfriend. If he is already on meds, he is never going to be someone who you can depend upon. He will always be confused. One day, he is all you ever hoped for, the next, the one you wished would disappear. You sound young so...as a mother of one who is bipolar, a manic cycle will deplete your soul, maybe your money, whatever dreams you have. The depressive part, if he has them, will drag you down into hell. And no, they don't have random chats with strangers when they're depressed. They stay inside, hide from everyone, and I do mean everyone. Be kind to yourself. Start over.
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