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Just come out with it. It'll be okay once you've told them. Don't get others to do it for you.
Along the lines of this is good:
"Mum"
"Yes?"
"When i spoke to Dr. Markus, He said that my problem wasn't flu, it was stress, and possibly depression. He wants to refer me to a counsellor to get it sorted as soon as possible, but he wanted mne to tell me parents first"
And go from there.
Hope this helps. I had the same problem when i was younger sweetie, it'll get better.
You should be the one to tell them,this is a very personal matter. you might be very surprised how understanding and supportive they can be, and they are your parents after all and maybe already have an idea that you are feeling depressed but are waiting to let you come to them first . fear not hun . .you'll be ok once you get it out there and start on the road to recovery . i wish you well x
i dont know if a teacher can or not, but i think it would be better if you do it yourself. what i suggest is going to the library, to the reference section and look up the DSM-IV-TR the manual of mental disorders. look up depression and make a copy of it. take it to your parents. this will give you the signs you need to have in order to have depression and will be very helpful when talking to your parents about it and how you feel. i will admit, this will be a hard to talk to your parents about it, but the sooner you do it, the sooner you get help and of course the sooner you will start feeling better. also when you go to see a psychologist, dont let them give you meds right away, they can cloud your mind ( meaning you wont get depressed so you wont know what is really bugging you) so if you dont want them, dont take them. i suggest you try just counselling at first and if that doesnt help, then get on the meds if you want. hope this helps and have a great day!!
If you get along great with your parents you should be the one telling them. If you think there will be a problem then you should ask your doctor to help you tell them...Hope everything works out for you, hugs.
I would have my parents consult with the physician with you. He can then explain the reason he would like you to have counseling. Good luck to you, sweetie. I have been there.
i think ollie gave you the best advice
do you have any siblings or friends or would/could help you with this. i know its really hard, i had to do this only a few weeks ago, my sister helped me with it. if you dont have siblings/friends who you want to help you out then im sure a teacher will help as well.
Have you thought about approaching your parents with your doctor, to have him/her better explain the in depth reasons for the decision to refer you too a counselor? People are referred to therapists and counselors for various reasons, and if your parents speak to your physician, maybe they will better understand your needs. The most important factor here is your health, if you are depressed you are going to need a solid family structure to help you with what you are about to endure. Depression should never be something to be ashamed of, there are wonderful medications to alleviate the symptoms and sometimes the symptoms will go away by just talking to someone (like a therapist) Someone who you are safe with that isn't there to place judgment upon you. I wish you all the best but I think you should tell your parents yourself with your doctors help. Good luck
Hey,
your very brave to have gone to the doctors alone and to face up to the problem. i hope yoru parents will also see it that way. It is best you do this yoruself but i can understand how hard it can be. if there is a teacher you trust, talk to them or go to the head of pastrol care in your school and talk to them and they will be able to either tell your parents or be there to support you when you do!
best of luck
xxx
Your teacher probably will not tell them, but a school counselor can be with you. They are qualified to do this. I bet if you go to the school counselor he or she will have them come in to a meeting so you can have the support to tell them (its really good for you to tell them or at least be there). If you have a trusted teacher, he or she can help you contact your school counselor and get you started.
If this idea will not work, then your doctor should have some training to be able to present it as a medical issue to your parents. You should be able to confide any fears or express a need for help from your dr.
Have you had to tell your parents something difficult in the past? If so, then what worked for you as a good way to do this? Above all else, you are the expert in what will work best in your family and in your situation, so do what seems like it will work out best. I bet you will be glad that you took the steps.
There is no shame in being depressed, it is a wide spread illness, affecting millions of people. You do not give much background to what has caused your depression and I am assuming that you are quite young and still live at home? If it is something in your home life that is causing your depression, then you need to talk it through with your parents. Sometimes, depression comes from nowhere and it is hard to pinpoint what has caused it. I think if you really can't tell your parents, then ask your doctor or teacher to tell them. Keeping things bottled up is not good and a talking therapy will hopefully put you right. Good luck and remember you are not alone.
First determine the source/s of your stress or depression-family, school, social relationship? It's important to open up your heart and mind to your family, esp your parents. Also speak to a couple of friends whom you trust. You will feel less stressed after you let people know what's bothering you.
You will then be able to sleep better without relying on sleeping pills or other drugs. Do not delay actions to ease your stress and depression else they may affect your safety wherever you are. Moreover they can hinder your effectiveness at whatever you are doing on a daily basis.
See a counsellor if you make no headway with the source of your depression.
I wish you quick recovery and a return to
normality!
Dont listen to your Doctor talk to a M8..Most these councillors done short course ,think they can walk into your life,turn it around and 6 months down the line they leave for new job...Most the ones i hear about a ignorant and they are making themselves jobs on the backs of people suffering..The World can be depressive accept it,their is beauty out their so try and see different perspectives...Lean to trust your knowledge and instinct and fcuk this talk of depression off..Count your blessings,Give Thanks..I know its hard believe me,ive been through the mill...
you don't have to tell your parents unless your doctor says but if you don't they will get a letter through the post and that will tell them it will be fine, honest.
Sorry to hear you arent too good!...
Your story sounds very familiar to mine...
I actually found it very hard to break it to my parents...
I had no choice in the end as the school rang and told them...
However they were more upset of the fact that i didnt tell them!...
If you find it hard telling them face to face write them a letter...Something...anything.
Its better coming from you as they will feel hurt that someone else told them first!...
It may seem scary but its better than suffering right?...
Feel free to email me if you ever need to chat...
Take care...
Hope it all works out for you...
Xox...
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