Someone very close to me has told me that she had been sexually abused as a child.can i help her through this?
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the best thing you can do is be there for her and listen to her. She needs to see a specialist - I have been through this with a few of my friends - this is what helped.
1. being able to verbalize the problem with a friend
2. talking to a therapist to help them deal with the pain.
3. hypnosis / acupuncture and alternative therapy
Good luck
just tell them that you are alllway there for them and they can call you and talk whenever they need to. thats the most you can do just let them know that someone cares
First you should be with her for whatever she needs.
Second tell her to see a specialist that may help or get therapy that's all i can say.
She needs to see a professional in order to overcome these problems. All you can do is be supportive of her. Sometimes memories are triggered years after the events by something as small as a song on the radio or the actions of a person, anything. It is tough, but she'll make it thru.
for her to completly get through this it would be best for her to see a therapist. If this is something she doesn't want to do, then you be the listner. let her know that you'll always be there and always have a shoulder to cry on.
You can help by being there for her. Is abuser a relative & still around ? She likely needs professional assistance from a counselor depending on her age etc. You can start by having her see a minister or family doctor who can make referrals
Of course you can help her with this. She trusts you enough for her to tell you something to personal. Try counseling or even you two talking about it may help her. It effects people in different ways so if this is still upsetting her and effecting her life then you need to recommend helping her through counseling even if that means she wants you there for support. Good luck to both of you.
all you can do is be a friend give her advise and lotsss of kleenex
She needs to get out of that situation and some professional help would be a good thing. Try and talk to a school counselor and let them know that your friend needs help. If her family didnt protect her then they cant now so you just need to let her know that you arent going anywhere and that you will help her to whatever she has to do to be somewhere safe.
just talk to her and hold her when she cries.she'll love you for this.
Yes you can be there for her until she goes and talks to a professional about it.But you can not fix it for her.You can only be there for support and get her to the person that can help her learn to help herself.
Its really a problem for you. Its beyond your capacity to give counsel to your friend. Try to tell her paents about this and your observations with your friend.
I think she should find her inner strength and put her foot down,confront her familly and tell them she has nightmares evry night and feels depressed.She should ask them if they know why, if they say they dont know, then she should go to the police and report that she was abused! She knows who, and the monster should not get away with it!there are laws against that sort of abuse and any one who abuses a young child has a mental problem and so does the familly if they pretend nothing happened. Where is motheres love?this person has to b made known of what they did. If she does this the nightmares will stop.
well for now learn to be a good listener and be patient, I went through the same thing a stepfather I was forced to call dad and knowing that dads don't do what this monster did to me,having to suffer for 7yrs with this person and trying to tell someone, anyone who listen to me and believing me was the so hard. just like your friend everyone knew what was going on my mom, CPS, the police and still no one helped. now after 20yrs I still get flashbacks from hearing that certain song or even smells I think that's the worse for me the smells. But I met this wonderful man who listens and understands what I'm going through. You both have a long road ahead of you for now keep your shoulders strong and your heart soft wait until she feels ready to talk to someone other then yourself don't make her do anything she's not ready for she has already gone through enough and pushing her into something else will make things worse. She will know when that time comes.Help her make new memories by paying attention to her attitude when you notice the a slight change ask her what's wrong? let her tell you don't try to fix it instead do something to make her smile and that is the beginning of making new memories. Good- Luck to you and stay strong.
yes call police
First your friend has to accept the fact that she was abused.It has already happened and she cannot reboot it from her system.She must also learn how to forgive and forget.I know and understand that it will be hard but she needs to persevere and ask God for strength to undergo everything.I am writting this from experience.I am free to share more with her as i went through hell after my father abused me.Can i commucate with her personally if she is intrested?Thankyou.
i had the same thing happen when i was a child ..mail me ok we can chat about it
I think honesty is the best plan. Until the perpetrator is outed the same stuff will be happening to other children in the family or neighborhood.
Your friend has some obligation to protect the still innocent.
I realize there will be problems from outing the perp. Your friend will not heal and the family will not heal as long as this mentally ill perpetrator is protected. The person should talk to her mom. If the mom is unreasonable, talk to a school councilor. Your friend can stop this one perp. It will be less awful than holding the stuff in and allowing the perp to have power over her. If she waits to get this cleaned up, it will damage the rest of her life.
Be supportive.
I think the best thing you can do for her is bring her to Jesus. Bring yourself first. I'm not trying to convert you or anything this has nothing to do with me. I really feel like with big things like this the only person that can truly take away the pain is Jesus and the family of God.
Psalm 69:29
I am in pain and distress; may your salvation, O God, protect me.
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