AA, NA members --- Please help??
What keeps you from reconizing your powerlessness and life's unmanagability?
Thanks for any feedback!
Answer:
You are fortunate to have entered the Program. Do you have a sponsor? Hope so.
Just because I drank until I would pass out, does that mean my life was unmanageable?
Just because I would wake up at night and get another drink, does that mean my life was unmanageable?
Just because I would have to have a drink at 5:30 a.m. to stop the shaking so I could get my contacts in, does that mean my life was unmanageable?
Just because I lost two excellent jobs, does that mean my life was unmanageable?
Just because I was shaking so much at work I couldn't write a pink phone message and had to e-mail my bosses, does that mean my life was unmanageable?
What keeps you powerless? Denial. I would go down and get that 5:30 a.m. drink and remember my ex telling the story of a man who had to tie a hankie around his neck and then put his arm through it like a sling, just to get the shot glass up to his mouth -- he was shaking so badly. Did that stop me? Of course not. I wasn't hurting anyone and for a long time I was a functioning alcoholic.
I won't go into why I joined AA right now, but please trust that you have made the most important decision of your life.
If you have a "Twenty-Four Hour" book, read the thought for the day for January 6 (as often as necessary). I have that read at all the meetings I chair.
May your Higher Power be with you.
What kept me from recognizing my powerlessness and lifes unmanagabilitry? PRIDE You need to become humble in order to admit you are powerless. Humble means to become teachable. So once we eat "humble pie" we are ready to be taught how to live a life that is manageable, and to live with the fact that I have no power over my drinking/using. If I had power over drinking and using, I could stop when I wanted, I wouldn't HAVE TO drink/use, and I wouldn't put myself in places/situations where I knew I would be able to drink/use. I have 10 years of recovery time, and I can not say that I don't want to drink. I still do, but now, I have taken back my power, and am able to say no to drinking! My life has become manageable now, because I'm not spending money that I don't have, or making a *** of myself when I get drunk. I have learned to do "feelings," the very things that led me to drinking in the first place. IF you are ever in doubt about drinking, do a H.A.L.T on yourself and see if any of these fits your mood, H=hungry A=anger L=lonely T=tired. If any of these moods fits you then don't drink.
Whoa!! sunshine...
Powerless...NEVER!
Life's unmanagability...Are you kidding?
Everyone has power over their life if they choose to participate in it. And Life is very managable, all you have to do is try. Where you fail...LEARN...and try again.
Life is a great adventure, stop crying in your beer and become part of your solution.
If you truly are an alcoholic or drug addict, and only you can decide, ego and fear keep you from recognizing your powerlessness over your substance and the unmanagability it has caused in you life.
keep it simple
don't drink, go to meetings, change your entire life
as soon as i put alcohol in my body,and start the mental obession, i give the power over to my disease.for me thats when i become powerless.and nothing on earth will stop me from drinking, only my h.p. has that power and i need to ask for help on a daily basis.it dont sound to me like you have a sponsor,or some kind of spiritual advisor.big part of early soberiety is asking a sponsor questions,we have a whole different language here in AA. dave n grateful recovering alcoholic
I think that if you are seeking support through AA or NA you kind of have that step down.
Addictive thinking is usually what brings you back to thinking you can control your addiction.
Addictive thinking is the biggest obstacle in staying sober. http://www.whatwinnersdo.com is my personal addiction website if you check it out you can see in the beginning I was back and forth on this subject a lot. I finally came to the realization that I have no control over my addiction and just needed to stop.
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