Can someone give me some tips in how to be more self confident.?
and school start and i would love to
have more confidence
can some one give me some steps or tips
on how to do so
Answer:
Take it one step at a time. Maybe each week (or whatever time period) make a new goal that you want to achieve. Make it simple like "this week I'm going to try to raise my hand in class" or "I'm going to introduce myself to that person I see all the time." Just think about what aspects about yourself you want to improve and take small steps in that direction. Achieving goals that you set for yourself helps to build confidence.
Also, try becoming more involved in something you're good at or something you're interested in. Don't compare yourself to others too much though, it's really more about how you feel about what you did in and of itself.
Surround yourself with positive people. Find a role model who is truly self confident in the manner you wish to be and study what sets that person apart. Build upon the confidence you have even if it's only a tiny bit.
Realize that you are gifted for something and whatever this is can be attained. Go for it!
Look in the mirror everyday and say I am beautiful.
...yeah, I don't have self confident either.
Participate in activities you enjoy that you are good at, even if it's just word search or crossword puzzles. Doing things you're good at will help. Try new things once a week, or at least once a month. This will expand your horizons and build your confidence. How else will you find other things you're good at?
You know those woven bamboo things they use as prizes at carnivals, called "chinese finger traps"?
You can put your fingers in, easily, but once in, you can't remove them by pulling. What you have to do is to relax, and *then* you can remove your fingers.
Building confidence is like that. What you have to do is work on building up *other* peoples' confidence, and you do that with itty bitty compliments.
Whenever you run across someone, try to figure out something you can compliment them on. It *must* be a completely honest compliment, and it need not be something particularly big. "Oh, gee, that's an interesting pencil you have there", or if her blouse looks worn, "I bet that's your favorite blouse; I know if I had one like that, I'd wear it all the time" or "That's a lovely smile you're wearing today!" or "You certainly look spiffy today".
Because it's an *honest* compliment, and because you aren't complimenting the other person in order to get something, or to sell them something, they are somewhat inclined to believe it. And they're somewhat inclined to like you. A person who is warm and friendly tends to become popular - maybe not the center of the crowd, but included in everything.
And *that* is what will build your self-confidence. It's nice to do the Stuart Smalley type self-affirmations, I suppose ("I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and gosh darn it, people like me") but it works a hundred times better if instead of one lonely voice between your eardrums, there are a hundred people out there telling you that you're good enough, you're smart enough, and gosh darn it, people like you.
If you feel uncomfortable doing this, start with strangers, people who are three times your age, people in front of you and behind you in the checkout at the supermarket. It's probably a good idea to start doing this a little at a time with people you already know, or they'll wonder what's up.
(Oh, and as a bonus, it really helps out in the romance area, too. I've met some truly amazing women, and even ended up married to one of them.)
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