Help getting over rape??
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find someone who trusts you, and who you trust back (like a BF should be, right?), i can tell you this, your are friggin beautiful, you are!
it was not your fault, trust me, its as much your fault as it is the pope's, and as you can tell, he had nothing to do with it.
you were just taking a shower, you had no way of forseing it coming, but if it ever happens again, thats why we prepare ourselves now, we build our defences when they are at their weakest and that makes them stronger.
if you want to feel safer, i could tell you a few ways to take a person down fast, like a kick behind the knee, a 50 lb person could land one solid kick there on a 350 lb. muscle head and drop him to his knee.
you did absolutly nothing wrong, i think you are just feeling things he should be feeling, HE did this to YOU, there is gothing to feel guilty about unless you are him, at which point he should feel dirty all over and should want to take a scalding hot shower for 3 hours, followed by one that is about 1 degree celcius (cause 0 is frozen) for 3 hours.
but you deserve to be pampered, you deserve a nice long warm bath with some bubbles, and someone to massage and cuddle you.
and you deserve to be put to sleep your favorite way, and to have breakfast in bed after being woken up your favorite way.
and you deserve to be able to start walking around the house naked. it may seem extreme and you may be shy, but think about this, if you can be comfortable around other people naked, like friends and family, then its not as bad because then you are aware that not everybody will hurt you when you are like that.
the bath you could even have a GF do it or a friend or sister if you dont have a BF just hanging around waiting to pamper you.
you need to contact the local police department and victim's assistance or a local therapist
your going to have to speak to someone about this...like a teacher, mom dad or counseler..its the only true way to start getting over rape...by best friends was raped many years ago and it took him a long time to get over this...and he still feels abd about it.seak help
go seek professional help...log off of ByeDr.com and google a local shrink. Seriously.
please for your own sake get therapy, cases like this can lead to serious issues with mental health.
Why do you feel guily, if it wasnt your fault and you had no control over it, then you shouldnt feel bad at all. I am sorry that that happened to you. Maybe you should talk to a therapist or your parents about it.
I think you should call the police if you got raped..or if you have big relatives bring them to the person if you know them and beat the crap out of them....You are beautiful.dont let nothing like that discourage you..Theres nothing wrong with you..!
first of all, go to the police and report it, even if they never prosecute the guy and they don't have any evidence, it will go on record and if he gets too many accusations they will come after him.
I'm sorry this happened, my wife was sexually assaulted as a teenager (not rape, but pretty close) and she is still struggling with it sometimes, It could take years to fully get over it, I suggest you look for support from trusted sources such as friends, family, or a pastor or counselor. Remember you were the victum and you have nothing to be ashamed about, any true friend will be willing to help you and anyone that doesn't is someone you don't want around anyway.
I hope this helps a little, and agian I'm sorry that you or any woman would ever have to deal with this.
Turn to the Bible and God!
First of all, don't blame yourself for it. It wasn't your fault - you were in the wrong place at the wrong time with an asshole who deserves to get his dick cut off!! But if you are still having problems coping, talk to someone close to you or seek professional help.
Sweetie, you need to discuss something like this with somebody else other than those at ByeDr.com. That is a very traumatic thing to go through. You may get some not so nice answers here. Do your parents know? I know if something like that happened to me, that is who I would be looking to for answers and comfort. Sweetie, you will be in my prayers.
I am so sorry to hear of your attack .. hopefully these web pages will help .. please consider profissional help as well as local support groups
SEE A THERAPIST. I HOPE YOU REPORTED IT TO THE POLICE
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