Advice needed so I can make a decision?

I'm a 20 year old guy , and I live in Holland. I've been so depressed.I used to live on the island of Curacao . I had a "life" there , a car , was going to college. My biggest dream, was to finish my degree in IT , then go to Cuba or Puerto Rico , to study and pursue a carreer in music. Things weren't going so well in college, i lacked motivation so I decided to come here and live on my own , and finish college here in Holland. Been a year now, and I'm so depressed. I got no life here, I never go out, I don't got any friends. I was thinking of going back to my island and get college over with , so I can work on my dream of hopefully become a prof. musician. My dad don't like that idea so much, cuz he sais i'm in Europe now, and I got a once in a lifetime opportunity to explore the world outside Curacao. But the thing is, I don't feel comfortable here in Holland. Of course I wanna explore the world, that's what life's all about.But I'm young right? I don't know what to do, please help.

Answer:
go back to the island where you were happy, I'm sure if your father knows how unhappy you are he will understand.good luck i hope you have a happy life.
I would have to say that you should follow your heart. If you're miserable there in Holland then you need to leave. You're never going to be happy unless you're on the "right track."

Good luck, I hope you find happiness.
Go back to the island, get collage over with, but make more of an effort. as your dad said its a once in a lifetime opportunity. and...wait.i CUBAN singer? call me sometime!!!

HOPE IT HELPS!
eRICA
I'm still feeling bad for you..
Live your life the way you want to - don't do things for someone else - not even your dad. If you aren't happy where you are you need to go to where you believe you'll be happy. Just don't burn bridges on the way. Explain to your dad that this is really what's in your heart. You have a lot of living to do yet - who knows where you will be five years from now. Do what you feel you need to do. Good Luck!
Get into a fight. It's the best way to get rid of depression. Then do something that makes you happy, or at least something you don't mind doing. And if you think about it, everyone needs a friend or associates to talk to and hang out or chill with. So make some. It isn't that hard. There's gotta be another lonely soul out there just like yourself who wants a friend, you just have to pay attention. As for your dad, f*ck em. If you let him hold you back or down, you deserve to be in the bent over d*ck taking position your in. Stop being so pitiful and start doing something for yourself.
Your dad knows you and has your best interests in mind, I know it's probably hard to hear but consider taking his advice to heart.
Making friends is more about what you do and how you approach things than about where you are.
What about clubs or classes for your music? You could meet others interested in the same things you are interested in.
For God's sake man, get a hobby.

I ran into the same problem at your age and the only thing that saved me was writing unsold novels and learning about photography, with a few crappy girlfriends along the way. It was a depressing time, but the scenery was nice when I realized that I was taking pictures of things I had never looked at before.

Explore the world? Start in the back yard, and work out from there.

(PS: I have an ancestor from Holland. He came over to America when he was 15. I owe my life to him. He did this in 1628. I like the Dutch. They are explorers, scientists, painters and musicians. Sounds like you are in that league. Learn from their culture. Keep the fire burning.)
get out and make friends .. experience things there are tons of people who would love to be in your situation. relish this and I know you're homesick but I have to agree with your Dad. He's doing you a favor with the things he says and feels.After time you might love it there... Get outside and enjoy a different country...

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