How do you cope?
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Find one person who you can talk to about it, and keep it between the two of you. People who are not sympathetic to how you feel will start to think you are trying to get attention by bringing it up. That is why it is good to have one person that you know will listen to you when you need a friend. If your girlfriend is that person that would be great for you, however if not then just do not talk to her about that part of your life and make sure that she understands that you will have someone else that you will confide in when you need to talk. Besides if your girlfriend will not listen to you when you need to talk about something like that, then maybe she is not a very good friend to you.
Let your girlfriend know you are going through a tough time, and might need more support/understanding for a little while. Find support in your community through a survivors group. Take breaks - give yourself some space and time to think of other things. There is no simple way to deal with this.
well, Coping is sometimes difficult. Your family may be shocked if it was someone in your family that abused you and they may try to protect you. But, remember: sometimes families deny everything and try to imagine it never happened, they try to protect the abuser, not the abused. If your family does not help then go to a psychiatrist, they may help you talk it out and let you move on with your life. GOOD LUCK ! : )
how do you cope? by letting go of the past. i know that sounds hard to do but you can do it. i was raped by a famillly member for 4 years. it startes when i was 8. it by someone i loved and trusted. i hated this person very much as i grew up. one day i realized that by holding onto this hate that i was missing out on alot of good and decent things in my life. someone told me that if i really wanted to stop the hate and let go of the past that i had to forgive. both myself and the person who had raped me. they said to do this i needed to sit down and write a letter to the person to did this to me ,whether they were dead or alive. they told me to write down whatever i wanted to .what i would say to this person if i met them face to face. it was supposed to be a one page letter. instead it came to be about a 20 page letter single space. i just let it come as it wanted to. let i let myself cry about it for awhile. when i told the person that i had written it. they gave me a match and said to burn it. as i did this i noticed that i felt a lot better. the hate was gone and in my mind i told this person that i forgave them and found that i really meant it. it gave me total peace for the first time in many,many years. i also found that i forgave myself. i found that i blamed myself for has happened to me, which in fact was never my fault at all. for this to to work you have to really want it to work. but you'll find that your relationships will all be better for you because you wil be a different person inside. if you need to it might not hurt to see a therapist for a little while to help you adjust to a new you.
Counselling can help a person learn to cope better. Support groups can also be helpful because a person knows they are not alone.
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