Job stress?
my boss fired my friend today, for no real reason except she said it was too hard to schedule him anymore. i think this is unreasonable and it makes me mad.
how do i go into work tomorrow and stay calm? stuff like this is very hard for me, it makes my relationships suffer. it's a family business and i don't want to speak to anyone who runs it right now. but they will ask me why i'm not talking and i don't want to get real mad, because i could get fired.
Answer:
Beyond doing relaxation techniques, you should take some time to evaluate the future. Is this a job you can see yourself in for the next 20 years (my guess is 'no'). If not, why aren't you elsewhere. My guess (and I could be wrong) is that you are either unsure of what you want to do or you don't feel like you have the qualifications to do whatever it is that you want to do.
Find something outside of work that you can go to in your mind when your job is driving you crazy. It could be a hobby, but the most effective thing is if you are working toward your future outside of work... taking a class, learning a skill (even if it is a hobby - like woodworking or home remodelling - like the classes that they do at home depot). If you know you won't be there forever, it won't seem so unbearable. If you know that you are qualified enough that finding a new job will be a snap, you won't have any problem being assertive (being aggressive, sarcastic, or mean will never get you ahead, so you might want to start with an Interpersonal Communications course at your local community college, tech school, or university - even if you 'klep' it - meaning take it for no grade).
You might also find that going to church on the weekend helps - not only socially, but to be around people who know that there is something more important than the day to day garbage that we all have to deal with (hmmm. maybe I should take my own advice).
Finally, having outside interests and skills will definitely help on that lovely day when you decide that you just can't take it anymore and turn in your two weeks notice. Maybe you'll even be doing it to run your own business. Wouldn't that be awesome!
i always repress my emotions at work, maybe it would be good to somehow express them, i just don't know how, cause yeah, if you say the wrong thing, you could get fired!
Practise one of the relaxation methods at http://www.ezy-build.nz/~shaneris... on page 2, and read that page, and stress, on page 7. You can use either the mindfulness breathing, or word/phrase repetition, (or the EFT variant in public: possibly claiming a headache). See bipolar disorder on page 5, and take the questionairres: possible misdiagnosis here (MOODSWINGS):- check it out!
Stress can arise for a variety of reasons. Any change in our lives can be stressful. In dealing with stress, the lifestyle needs a complete overhaul. We should be placed on an optimum diet, and take regular exercise and adequate rest. Check out http://sumiram2006-stressfree.blogspot.c... for more info.
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