A question for anyone suffering from clinical depression.?
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well, i am not sure what type of depression i am suffering from, but it has effected my relationships. some people got so fed up with me, that they stoped being friends with me. i figured they weren't very good friends if they couldn't help me or at least stay with me through the tough spots. i think it is hardest to talk to my parents. they notice i am upset but i won't tell them why. i try to aviod them or ignore them. talking to them is difficult for me now,when i really never was muh of a problem. well, some relationships have ended because of it, but we weren't that close to start out with. you are a good friend to be worried about this. still offer him all the support you can and show him you care. do special things for him. he may be unresponsive to you, but it is helping him. it will only hurt him a lot if you leave him. good luck.
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I just got out of a relationship that ended due to my depression. It was a very different situation though. This person was extremely crirical and when I was having my down days he would criticize me even more finally I had had it and left him and he recently came back trying to be "friends" to me and that lasted about two weeks and I was having a bad day and he just still would not give any support so I ended all contact with him. The worst thing in my opinion is to give a depressed person unsolicited advice or criticize how they feel. sometimes people do just need to have a pity party and sometimes they just want to be told it'll be okay.
Cam.. I have suffered from the same thing he is going through. He is at a low spot that has rattled his self-esteem and as a man has made him question his abilities in all he does...Support him but don't be a enabler. Allow him to know that he can trust you and feel free to talk to you about this with out him feeling weak or judged. But on the same hand, don't let him use this as a excuse to give up. If you leave him, it will only add to his thinking that he can't achieve and is deserving of the "punishment and desperation" he feels at this point. Be a friend to him understand his thought process.. His unresponsiveness is him battling with his inner demons...He feels that no one else could ever know what he is going through, and if he opens up at this point in time, he may be ridiculed even worse, lose the ones he cares about most..Hang in there... gradually, try to get him to confide in one person, someone that will be a mediator. Someone that doesn't know him personally and will be able to help him with counseling and maybe even some medicine that will bring him, out of the fog...It may take some time, but patience and the truth will set both of you free. Trust me I've been there and I am doing so much better once I let my guard down .
dear cam,
perserverance,fortitude and patience.
i have been diagnosed with clinical depression and have been on medication for the last ten years.unfortunatly my marriage ended in divorce due to my illness.
when a person is depressed the afflicted retreats to within himself,his thoughts are dark and he is full of dispare.if you are a true friend,you should not think that his non responsivness to you or anyone else is a personal challenge to your friendship.be there for him,no matter how bad it seems.
i hope that he is under a doctors care and is on medication.see him through this terrible time and remember it is he who is suffering the most.
i hope this has shed some light on your question.
I have suffered from depression most of my life. I recently got a divorce and I believe that 50% of the reason my marriage ended was b/c of my depression. That's adding insult to injury! My husband said he understood, but he didn't really and he never tried to educate himself on the illness. At his best, he would just leave me alone. At his worst, he would critisize me and place burdens on me that I just could not handle. I wasn't just lying there sobbing all the time...far from it...but I couldn't exactly keep up with his energetic life either. No one around me has ever tried to understand what I go through. THat has been the most painful part. To suffer from depression is hard enough; to feel completely alone in it, to get blamed for it, critisized, judged and dumped on is beyond painful. You're a good person for trying to understand your friend. It is symptomatic of depressed people to shut others out, but if you are patient, he will respond. And even if you think he is being unresponsive, just knowing that you are there for him, that you don't judge him, etc., means the world to him. He may not be able to express that right now, but don't take your support away. It may be all he has to cling on to. Don't leave him. THere is nothing worse than for a depressed person to think that he/she has been abandoned. You don't have to give up your life for the person, but a little support goes a long way, even if it doesn't seem like it. Trust me...it's doing him a lot more good than you think.
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