I really dont want to live around my mom & family?

and i feel so BAD about that. but why do i feel so bad? here's more info: i work very hard for what i have. when i fall i get up & keep going. when things go bad i may get depressed but i keep going. i want to live a certain way & i work my behind off to have it. i'm the ONLY ONE in my family who does that. everybody else is either doing nothing or they have regular jobs & not trying to do more. in a few yrs i know i'm going to live how i want because i work really hard for it. i dont want to have my family with me. i dont know if i want my Mom around either because with HER comes everybody else. and i'm sorry to say this but i'm sick of my Mom & her ways & habits. i've had alot of experiences with her growing up that caused me to be an adult with "negative issues" & i'm still fighting those issues to be a better person, while she's still the same way. i get agitated being around them & i want to live my life on my own & be my own person.

Am I wrong for that? Am I rejecting them?

Answer:
From someone who has also been there:

No you are not bad for needing your own space, nor are you rejecting them. It is time for you to take care of yourself.

A therapist may help you get through you doubts about this; mine did.
How old are you? Most of the time its in our teenage and adolesent years we feel this way, and sometimes it personally just stays. If you feel they're negative leave them, but if you feel you'll regret it try going to therapy with your mom.
I know that you feel really, really guilty. You can't help it. They are your family. I know you haven't told the whole story and there is probably a lot more to it. Don't feel bad for wanting to better yourself and break a bad cycle. It won't be easy. I hope you have strong will and patience.
No your not wrong for that...but you need to love your mom where she is at..in her generation things WERE negative...honey get away and get your own life. Sometimes families will suck the very life out of you...I know it well..you need to be true to yourself and this is not wrong. They will come to respect you after awhile...I escaped and didnt talk to anyone in my family for 2 years before I gradually let them back in bit by bit...but now I dont take the "elephant in the livingroom" anymore..when my mom started to get on my nerves I told her and they all knew that I was independant enough to disappear again...so things are much better now...my mom passed on but we were so much closer when she did than when she would make me want to scream from her nagging and negativeness...dad I am still working on..so be true to yourself and live the life you want to live...and quit feeling guilty...have fun...
First you need to be honest with yourself...your previous post stated you were 18 in love with a 48 year old man.

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