***BEST ANSWER GUARANTEED*** what do you do if someone is bipolar...but they don't know it?
we finally ended it because of his ups and downs, i'm only now realising how much of his behaviour is consistent with the disease. i was really angry at how i was treated, as well as a bit worried about potential unpredictable behaviour. now i'm not angry anymore. how can i be?
but he's angry at ME. he's being totally unreasonable, but what else can you expect? anyway i'm not in a position to sit him down and tell him he needs help, not with him mad at me like this. i mean...what do you do in this situation? get a friend to say something to him or watch him? i could tell his dad but i don't know him that well and my ex hasn't done anything that severe yet. or do i just...let him go on like this?
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until he really wants to get help there is not much you can do, I know this from experience, I am bipolar and it took a long time to realize I had a problem and needed help. If you have been like that for most your life and he knows no different its very hard to see that things are not right or normal. once he has calmed down then maybe you could ask him about it and just point out your worried for him. His mum should know that he is being like this as she is bipolar and knows the signs all to well. Bipolar is genetic so there is a good chance he has bipolar but it could also be some learned behavior from his mother.
good luck
Well, it sortof depends on how much you care about him.
If you don't care for him much, then let him go and hope that eventually somebody will notice the behavior and get him help.
But if you do care about him, then try talking to his dad about it or getting a friend to do it.
If he's your ex, why are you still concerned? Move on and let the next sucker deal with him
Bipolar is a serious condition, which i suffer from. Before i got treatment i would live in anguish for days, and i would put a terrible strain on my family, yet my best friend knew something was wrong so told my mom and now i am being treated for it. I was mad at my friend for a while, but now i realise that she did the right thing, and without her i do not know where i would be now.
Through this one favour you do for him, could bring him a lifetime of happiness. So if i were you i would either tell one of his friends to tell his father or, if you think it is appropriate maybe sit him down and tell him yourself.
Like i said you may be hated for a while but believe me after a few months he will be eternally grateful for your help.
Hope all goes well.
My dad has Bipolar disorder, and for a while he was a lot like your boyfriend. The best thing you can do, and keep in mind that this may take perseverence and is no garauntee since no one can make the person accept that they have a problem, but I think you should sit your ex down at some point and ask him if he's considered that maybe he is bipolar. When you're trying to convince him, make sure the whole time you come across as being on his side, and make it clear that you are on the same team here. What he needs is support and the knowledge that someone else wants him to start enjoying life more and not be so prone to harmful mood swings. If you make it clear that you are only bringing it up because you want to help him, then he is more likely to be open to looking into treatment or medication.
My brother's girlfriend is bipolar too, but if you tell her that, first shell freak the hell out and make a big scene, then she'll deny that there's any possibility that she's bipolar. Your only option may be to club him over the head and drag him to a psychiatrist while he's knocked out.
First off, Bipolar disorder is not a disease, it's is a disorder. It isn't caused by a virus, bacteria, or a mutated cell, so therefore it can't be classified as a disease. It's an imbalance of chemicals in the brain.
Second. You are not his mother, and if you have told him once that he needs help, then you've done your job. Most of the time, those whom have the disorder are wrongly diagnosed or they aren't even aware of the current mood swings, manic behavior and depression. You are not his caretaker, you are not responsible for his well being, therefore you shouldn't be worried about his irresponsibility, and unpredictable behavior.
Third, if you fear he may do somthing irrational, tell someone who does have authority, but don't let the worrying take over your life.
My mom was diagnosed with Bi-Polar Dissorder when I was 17...and it's been a struggle ever since. A diagnosis is NOT necessarily going to lead to improvement, unless he wants it. My mother has been in and out of the hospital, on and off of her meds, in and out of therapy.she's tried suicide, she's tried self-medication with illegal drugs and drinking to excess, she's been in and out of NA, rehab, other treatment options, she's "undiagnosed" herself, has sought out mental health professionals that agree that she may not be bi-polar, as well as leaving perfectly good counselors if they tell her what she doesn't want to hear. It's a nightmare for all involved, and while every case is different, I can tell you this much.. no amount of counseling, medication, intervention by friends and family, etc., is going to change anything until he sees a problem with his behavior and truly wants help. So where do you go from here? If he won't hear you out, your best bet would be to reach out to someone that he WILL listen to...even if that means his father, regardless of how well you know him. If he's the best connection to your ex, then so be it. Voice your concerns, prepare yourself with factual information supporting your beliefs, and let him take it from there.
Send him some information about it anonymously. Maybe he'll recognize it.
Show him the information that you read that made you think his is bipolar and ask him to look over it. Tell him that some of the behavior reminds you of him. You can also minimize it like it is no big deal and he is not that bad. Allot of people suffer from depression and bipolar used to be called manic depressive disorder. No matter his reaction you have planted the seed. Only a trained psychiatrist can diagnose someone. After you talk to him once you need to leave it alone, men often need to marinate on things. His course of action is personal so there is little you can do just give him the info and let it go.
Hi:
The answer you are looking for is already in your heart otherwise you would not have taken the time to write your question.
You tell him.
What he does with that information is up to him, but you would have done your part.
Wouldn't you want to know?
Be safe and be well
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