19, can't ejaculate with girlfriend. Why?
Thank you
Answer:
First of all, are you using a condom? I know from experience if you are used to wearing one they can cause a loss of sensation and thus not allow you to orgasm, especially if you have been used to masturbating all this time.
You also may be overly anxious about having sex and might be putting too much mental anxiety on yourself to orgasm. This may especially be true if you, indeed, aren't using protection and you could be worried about unwanted pregnancy or diseases, etc.
You may also not be getting enough foreplay. You just may not be aroused enough prior to intercourse.
How often do you masturbate? It's a possibility that you have very little semen left at the time of intercourse and it takes just too long to build up enough to orgasm and ejaculate.
One last possibility is that you are not receiving enough stimulation from your girlfriend's vagina. It could be she is getting so aroused that she is producing excessive amounts of vaginal lubrication thus not allowing you to get enough friction onto your penis and not arousing you enough to get to orgasm.
Your situation could be caused by other physical problems like any medication you are on, lack of sleep, smoking, illicit drugs, stress, etc.
consider yourself lucky!
Sounds like you have a mental rather than a physical problem. You only recently lost your virginity, and you are probably overly concerned about your performance in bed. Try to relax!
i assume you can ejaculate when you masterbate or if she performs oral sex on you. if you can't even then, there could be a deeper problem that you need to see a doctor or urologist for. but at your age, I don't think that's much of a problem.
it's obviously either mental or physical.
if it's physical, then you need to try different positions. some positions are going to feel different and make it easier for your to ejaculate. not only do you get to ejaculate, but you get to have fun in the process. you might also have a hard time because your body gets tired and therefore the blood rushes away from your penis and to the rest of your body. if that's the case, slow it down. take your time and you'll be fine.
if it's a mental thing, again, no worries. the first time you have sex is always a little nerve wracking, especially with someone you care for. couple that with the stress of not being able to ejaculate and you end up putting yourself in a self fulfilling cycle because all you can think about is that you can't ejaculate. your best bet is to try to stop thinking so much about ejaculation. sometimes fantasizing can help. otherwise, try to get into the moment. if your girlfriend is open to it, maybe watching pornography (or even soft porn) will help.
but no matter what the issue is, you'll eventually get over it. in the meantime, make sure you assure your girlfriend it's not her. she's probably feeling a tad insecure right now thinking that she can't turn you on. which im sure is not the case. good luck.
take your time, relax and you'll be fine.
You are a god. You will ejaculate when you are ready to ejaculate, young grasshopper.
Your nuts haven't dropped yet. ha ha
Probably psychological. I assume you can masturbate to orgasm?
Maybe you're trying too hard. Or, this sounds icky but it might help you: can you get your girlfriend to put her finger up your butt while you're inside of her? The pressure on your prostate should be enough to trigger an orgasm. Or it may be that you're low on testosterone, like me (unusual at your age, but not unheard of): If I take too long to ejaculate, it's almost impossible to get there without stopping frequently and waiting for my body to produce more. You might try pausing and resting for a while instead of one continuous session or "effort." Or you might try letting your imagination run wild and conjure up the most sinful, erotic fantasy you can think of (that doesn't necessarily involve your gf, but you're under no obligation to tell her).
it's because you arent married.
Maybe ur gay.
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