Abuse Help?
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Don't wait to report the abuse. The next time 'brother dearest' beats on you, he might accidentally kill you. Your Mom probably doesn't want to hear anything bad about her new spouse, so go to the hospital or an emergency care clinic next time (and every time) you get hurt. You need to keep a diary of the times you are hurt, not just at home! Find a friend or councilor who you can trust to keep the information. You need help with this, you shouldn't try to go it alone.
Record and report these actions to your mother or an adult that you trust and will trust you. These things cannot continue and somebody needs to know what is going on so you and your stepbrother can get the help both of ya'll deserve. What is going on is not ok and it is not natural and it needs to be stopped immediately. If you cannot get anyone to listen then take it to the school counselor or the police if necessary. You cannot thrive in this environment and things need to change soon. I pray all goes well with you.
Id tell somebody. I know you may not want to but it will help u in the long run. I know what ur going threw in some aspect i seen my mom get beat all my life when i was younger and im 20 now. But u have to look out for your wellbeing. im sry ur going to that though, stay strong.and best of luck
I shouldn't be doing this on YA but it's more important to your life that I do it than my personal sense of internet anonymity that I don't.
I'm a 54yo adult male which makes me 39 years and possibly two-generations older than you.
When I was your age I had undiagnosed ADD -They finally figure it out when I was 40.
As a result of having ADD , I was accident prone and more than a little clumsy.
As a result of that I always had cuts and bruise and the occasional broken bone.
I also had a very violent father who thought it was wrong to hit women and thus when he had one of his all too frequent bad days more often than not my body was the target of his violence.
I would go to school bruised , occasionally a call by a concerned teacher would go home , the adults would converse and come to the consensus opinion that since I had a well established baseline of injury , my most recent one was just another link on the chain.
Your generation is lucky bc people are taking those kinds of injuries seriously now.
Here's what I know about the rest of your life if you don't get this problem solved immediately:
You will become promiscuous
You will drop in and out of many relationships
On more than one occasion you will marry an abuser
You will seek solace in drugs and alcohol
You may become a stripper and live that life
On more than one occassion you will attempt suicide
And you won't understand why
So I'm going save you a couple of hundred dollars on therapist visits and tell you why.
All abused kids have serious negative self image issues and all abused kids have serious boundary issues -and it's not their fault .It's the fault of the bastards that abused them.You need to treat that fact of like as if it's Gospel Truth because it is. You are in no way responsible for the behavior of the adults that abused you-they are.
Parents that abuse their kids have some very serious boundary issues. The reason that child abuse is so bad for the psyche of the child is that child correctly assumes that his home is a place of safety and that the people who are the most important in his life; his parents , his realitives , his teachers, his clergyman are there to protect him.
When the home proves to be a dangerous place and the people who are supposed to be protecting him start hurting him then the world turns upside down , boundary's have no meaning and the kid doesn't know who to trust.
Essentially by abusing a kid the adults are delivering a " these rules don't apply to us message" the kid realizes that and makes the logical connection that " these rules don't apply to me either"
I know that all was hard to read , it was hard to write too.
You talk to the School Nurse, your favorite teacher, walk into the nearest Fire Dept Station.
Call the Police, Contact your city's Child Protection Service.
The Next fight wALK INTO THE STREET AND YELL BLOODY MURDER, make sure every neighbor for two blocks hears your cry. "DO NOT, DO NOT" Let this continue. Reach out for help Now.
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