A friend of mine is going through chemo but...?
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My heart goes out to your friend who is so ill and yourself. i know it is so painful to watch someone you love become so ill.
It is difficult to tell if this is the end or not. Depends how bad the kidney infection is and how advanced the cancer is.they are probably delaying chemo becuase her immunity is already low with the infection in her body. Only time will tell i am afraid. It is always difficult when i am asked how long is someone going to live when they are diagnosed with cancer. It is like asking how long is a piece of string. Only God knows.
Your friend will look ill at the mo having a kidney infection and going through chemo.
I am not sure how bad your friends cancer is? Many people survive cancer with chemo etc. I don;t want to give you false hope but your friend may recover from the infection and then restart the chemo. Only the doctors will know. have you spoken with the next of kin of your friend as the docs would have told them.
I think helping someone with cancer is stressful for a loved one and friend and you may well benefit from contacting cancer reaearch UK who may be able to give you further info. Also if you are finding this really hard to come to terms with...then maybe you could benefit from some counselling? I only say that as I am a nurse and can see what stress relatives friends etc go through as well as the patient. Also my sister had cancer...and survived but at the time she was ill it did take its toll on me and I had some counselling which helped.
It is so different nursing a patient to a family member. You care a whole lot with a patient but when its family it just hurts more.
Cavorim = I agree that the father will tell the 2 year old if the mummy passes away BUT don not underestimate a child losing a parent! Even 2 year olds feel the absence of a parent! trust me!
I hope no-one gives you any horrible nasty answers.
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She is in the best place, being in hospital they can keep an eye on her and administer any treatment or drugs she needs. You will just need to wait to see how things go with her. Be a good friend, visit and talk to her and take things for her to do while she's stuck in hospital. Is there a support worker at the hospital you could talk to? Perhaps they have some leaflets at the hospital that will help you come to terms with things. Good luck and try to remain strong and positive for your friend.
I am sorry I don't have the answer contact Macmillan as they have a helpline number, they will be able to give you some advise support, There is also a formun (killing Cancer) haven't go the links to hand, I will get them and come back and edit.
I really sympathise - my dad has a Spine tumour and was due chemo a few weeks back and got a chest infection, so now the dr's are saying they might not do Chemo - its very, very worrying. Hopefully once the infection is treated they'll be able to resume treatment
Macmillian helpline 0808 8082020
www.killingcancer.co.uk
Kidney infections make people look dreadful, I had one and looked awful, so I wouldnt worry too much about how she looks. You dont say what type of cancer she has or how advanced, so not easy to judge if she will get through it.
As for the 2 year old, I would just say her mummy is not well wouldnt actually use the word dying as she wont know what that is anyway.
If you are really concerned about your friend the only people who can tell you about her condition are her doctors and I guess they musthave spoken to her next of kin. Unless it is going to be your job to tell the two year old I would not worry about it and anyway she won't understand and will quickly get used to new circumstances.
Nobody know what the outcome will be - it is out of everyone's hands. I am sure that they will give her the best possible treatment to get her through as best they can. All you can do is hope and pray for the best outcome.
Infections always delay chemotherapy as it depletes the immune system. You have to let the immune system recover so that it can start fighting the infection. Once this has been tackled and she is clear of infection, then the chemo can start again.
Complementary and Alternative Medicine can often help people with chemo, in that it helps support the immune system so that it recovers more quickly. However, you do need to seek advice from an experienced practitioner.
Don't give up hope - the body is often a lot stronger than it seems - and she may surprise you all. People often look worse than they actually are - so keep thinking positive.
I hope things work out - if there is anything more I can do please let me know.
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just pray for your friend. always tell her that you will get throught this toghether and that you will always be there for her no matter what. as for her daughter... i think the only way to tell her is sooner than later so that she doesnt wonder what has happened to her mother. hopefuly there will be a miracle in this
oh, this is a touchy subject. Its hard to tell with chemo. Chemo actually makes you sick. so, not taking it you make look better and actually not be getting better. Don't base anything on how she looks. As for the 2 year old, does the child have the father in his/her life? A child needs love alot of it . By your question i can see you love the child alot, so you are already helping
She will be fine, just support her with positive thoughts! I work with cancer children and give them Reiki and juice to help theirs immune system:
Juice for anemia, depression, immune system and to nourish to people with cancer and chemotherapy: 1 cup of alfalfa, 1 watercress cup, 1 green apple, 3 carrots, 1/2 beet, 7 almonds and 5 nuts. It is liquefied and drunken immediately. 1 or 2 times to the day.
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